Afrikan Goddess (AG) Online

By: AG Staff (Published February 1, 2010)

… Its time to move on to someone who will.

Let’s face it ladies, kissing is an intrical part of the lovemaking process. If you remember the last kiss you shared with that special man, you also remember the lingering feeling that was left long after the kiss had ended. You remember the smile you had plastered on your face for the rest of the day, and you remember that you couldn’t wait for the next kiss.

A kiss from the man you’re dating is worth a thousand words. More so does the way he does it. Kissing is a non verbal way of communicating our feelings towards each other and the lack of it speaks volumes! A kiss from a man says he’s emotionally connected to you, it says he’s attracted to you, it says he’s into you, and it says he’s curious to know more about you. It says he’s willing to test the boundaries and risk the consequences.

This is why when a man will have sex with you, but refuses to kiss you, you have every cause to feel concern, and to question his motives! After all the importance of kissing has made its way to the altar where the marriage deal between a man and his bride is sealed with a kiss. A kiss is personal. A kiss is an expression of your passion for each other. If the reason he won’t kiss you is not that you have bad breath or bad teeth, or poor oral hygiene (you know these to be true because you’ve checked), then there are only three other reasons that could explain why the man you’re “dating” may be refusing to kiss you:

He’s inexperienced: This is possible if the man is a virgin, or simply shy of women and not one who’s been around the block very often. The fix here is for you to initiate, encourage and be patient. With time, things will get better. Just like with sex, kissing is not something you teach. It just gets better with experience and lots of practice.

He’s insecure:  Being inexperienced and insecure go hand in hand. When a man is inexperienced, chances that he’s going to feel insecure about his skills are higher. Some men may also find that they are a lot more insecure about their bodies – especially his manhood – than they care to admit. If you’ve ever slept with a man who kept talking about the size of his bulge, you know exactly what I'm driving at. Such a man needs reassurance, encouragement, and yet again patience on your part. With time, he will come to accept himself if he knows that you accept him too.

He’s simply not that into you: When a guy can have sexual relations with you, and yet refuses to kiss you, chances are usually that he’s simply not that into you. If he kisses you with his mouth tightly shut, that’s an added insult because he’s telling you he’s emotionally shut off from you. All he wants is to use your body for his sexual pleasures. The added insult might even be that he has an actual girlfriend, may even be married, and is just seeking the thrill of an affair.

Kissing is usually the first step in the process of getting intimate. When a man wants to skip this all important part and get down to business, you need to gather your things and run!